Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Beauty in the Broken Places by Allison Pataki (Review)

Beauty in the Broken Places: A Memoir of Love, Faith, and Resilience
Series:
Standalone
Genre:
Adult, Nonfiction, Autobiography
Publication Date:May 1, 2018
Format:Hardcover
Published By:  Random House
Website:Allison Pataki 

Beauty in the Broken Places on Goodreads
My review copy:
Received from the publisher

Where to get:

https://smile.amazon.com/Beauty-Broken-Places-Memoir-Resilience/dp/0399591656/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1525785267&sr=8-1&keywords=beauty+in+the+broken+places https://smile.amazon.com/Beauty-Broken-Places-Memoir-Resilience/dp/0399591656/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1525785267&sr=8-1&keywords=beauty+in+the+broken+places https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780399591655



A deeply moving memoir about two lives that were changed in the blink of an eye, and the love that helped them rewrite their future

Five months pregnant, on a flight to their �babymoon,� Allison Pataki turned to her husband when he asked if his eye looked strange, and watched him suddenly lose consciousness. After an emergency landing, she discovered that Dave�a healthy thirty-year-old athlete and surgical resident�had suffered a rare and life-threatening stroke. Next thing Allison knew, she was sitting alone in the ER in Fargo, North Dakota, waiting to hear if her husband would survive the night.

When Dave woke up, he could not carry memories from hour to hour, much less from one day to the next. Allison lost the Dave she knew and loved when he lost consciousness on the plane. Within a few months, she found herself caring for both a newborn and a sick husband, struggling with the fear of what was to come.

As a way to make sense of the pain and chaos of their new reality, Allison started to write daily letters to Dave. Not only would she work to make sense of the unfathomable experiences unfolding around her, but her letters would provide Dave with the memories he could not make on his own. She was writing to preserve their past, protect their present, and fight for their future. Those letters became the foundation for this beautiful, intimate memoir. And in the process, she fell in love with her husband all over again.

This is a manifesto for living, an ultimately uplifting story about the transformative power of faith and resilience. It�s a tale of a husband�s turbulent road to recovery, the shifting nature of marriage, and the struggle of loving through pain and finding joy in the broken places.


(Goodreads)


Allison's novels hold a special place in my heart. Back in 2014 I interviewed her for The Traitor's Wife, a historical fiction novel about Benedict Arnold's wife and again in 2015 for The Accidental Empress, a historical fiction novel delving into the first half of Empress Elisabeth of Austria-Hungary's life. Since then she released Sisi: Empress on Her Own, the continuation of Sisi's story.

Beauty in the Broken Places is not a historical novel, but a true story of love and faith. Interspersed with chapters of their romantic history, Allison takes us from the first moments of Dave's stroke to the birth of their daughter a few months later and ending with the one year anniversary of the day their lives changed.

Allison's writing is so beautifully done that I don't feel I'm reading the story of two strangers, but I'm living through a harrowing time with friends. Her writing is personal and heartfelt, full of raw emotion and truth that is often hard to come by in such personal memoirs. We don't get the full brunt of Allison's letters to Dave, but we are provided glimpses of the emotions she went through.

I can't imagine having gone through what Allison did, especially while pregnant. What was supposed to be an exciting time of her life could have been completely tragic, but she pulled through with the help of her friends and family. Eventually, Allison learned she had to ask for help:
"To acknowledge that I could not soldier through this one on my own. I had never been ripped open like this, sapped of my strength and stripped of the shiny veneer of confidence and self-sufficiency that I had always been able to present to the world, not as an artificial facade but because prior to that, I had generally felt like I was in control. That I could hand it - whatever it was."

My emotions went through the ringer on this one and I just wanted to hug Allison - I still do. (That sounds creepy.) She showed amazing strength and resilience throughout her husband's recovery and while I don't know all the details, I can't imagine Allison held back much from us. Dave's Epilogue earns him a hug too.

Now I feel like a real creep.

If you haven't read any of Allison's novels yet, I highly recommend starting with this one. Not only will get you to know Allison the person, but also Allison the author, the wife, and the mother. But most importantly, Allison the Survivor. 


Sunday, May 6, 2018

My One Regret by Claudia Y. Burgoa (Review)

My One Regret

Series:
Standalone
Genre:
Adult, Fiction, Romance
Publication Date:May 04, 2018
Format:Paperback
Published By:  Amazon Digital Services 
Website:Claudia Burgoa 

My One Regret on Goodreads


Where to get:

  https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781987617016




When he left her, he made the biggest mistake of his life. But now she might be gone for good.

Kaden Hades couldn�t handle touring with his rock band and a relationship� until he discovered Sadie, the love of his life. But when tragedy struck with his teenage daughter, Kaden broke off the engagement, swearing to put his kids first.

Then he gets the phone call. Sadie�s been in a car accident.

By the time he reaches her side, she is critical.

With Sadie in a coma, memories flood Kaden�s mind. Her kisses. And all the wonderful experiences they shared. The day it all went wrong�and Kaden made the biggest mistake of his life. Now, as her last line of defense against those who've given up hope, he'll move heaven and earth to protect her.

Because she�s always had his heart�but if he loses her, his world will come apart. 




My One Regret is the best angsty, heart-wrenching romance I've read this year! Kaden Hayes is HOT, smoldering and the kind of guy that every girl wants but knows they can't have. He's a song writer and the lead in his band and has girls falling at his feet. This used to thrill him. He used to take them home with him for a night and forget about them the next morning. Then he laid eyes of Sadie and all that changed. He never felt this way about anyone before. She was naturally beautiful and nothing like the typical girl he went for. That didn't stop him.

Sadie was the owner of a flower shop and a girl who had been hurt before by players. She wasn't going to let anyone break her again. Most of all a heart throb who would get what he wanted and leave instantly. Kade was gorgeous and dangerous to her. Then why did her knees go weak every time she saw him. Why was he doing super sweet things that nobody had ever done? Why did she want to let him in so badly she couldn't breathe?  


This was there beginning, sweet romantic and beautiful. Wait until you reach the ending. Your heart will break. Kade has to choose his daughter over his love right? Kade grew up without a good father, he wasn't going to leave his daughter without one. He made the right chose leaving Sadie, at least he think he did.... Then Sadie gets in a car crash and Kaden's heart breaks all over again. he rushes to her side but she's still in surgery. Will she wake up? Is his love enough to save her life? 

OMG, I am so in love with this story and the writer that created it. Claudia is one of my favorite authors ever. Besides being a great person who really appreciates her readers and gives back, her books never disappoint! She is the whole package. Great writer, amazing story teller and all around great person.

So what are you waiting for? Stop reading and go buy, buy, buy!!! ??



About the Author


Claudia is an award-winning, international bestselling author. She lives in Colorado working for a small IT company, managing her household filled with three confused dogs, two daughters wrought with fandoms and a son who thinks he�s the boss of the house. And a wonderful husband who shares her love for all things geek. To survive she works continually to find purpose for the voices flitting through her head, plus she consumes high quantities of chocolate to keep the last threads of sanity intact.

My One Regret is now available on Kindle Unlimited here.




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Saturday, May 5, 2018

April Wrap Up: What I Loved,and Loved Some More!



I can hardly believe we are already in May as I write this post. My April flew by. Between being sick for about 2 weeks, I worked my butt off at my accounting job. Yes, that's right, I'm a boring accountant, but I love it so no judging. ??I also went on a super fun  trip with my best friend Jen to Temecula, California to stay with some great people and go to the wine country. I can't believe how much fun we had and I definitely want to do another girls weekend soon.

It was a great reading month for me. I read 8 books. Here are the statistics.

Statistics

Books Read: 8
ARC�s Reviewed: 4
Genres: Romance, Poetry, Suspense/Mystery






Us: a collection of poetry by Kiana Azisian
Date Read: April 04, 2018
Rating:????�

(My Review) Fantastically brutal. I have started reading so much poetry lately as it really inspires me to write better myself. This author really knows how to hurt you and heal you at the same damn time.





Junk Shop Heart by Kirk Diedrich
Date Read: April 04, 2018
Rating:?????
(My Review) I couldn't believe Kirk Diedrich had a poetry book out and I hadn't read It yet. I've followed him on Instagram and Twitter for years and have always loved his words. They are so profound, hopeful and heart breaking all at once. This poetry book didn't disappoint. I found some amazing poems I hadn't seen before and some favorites too. I'd highly recommend you give this romantic soul a chance. This lady can't wait for the next one.







After Anna by Lisa Scottoline
Date Read: April 07, 2018
Rating:????
(My Review) I received an arc of this read from the publisher.

Maggie and Noah have no idea what they are getting into when they allow Maggie�s estranged daughter to move in with them and become a part of their family. Maggie, who hasn�t seen her daughter Anna since she was an infant, is full of guilt at not being there for Anna and is ready to step up and do her best as a mother.
Things quickly escalate into a horrible situation. Anna is murdered and all evidence points to Noah as the murderer. Noah is arrested and tried for the crime. The story moves back and forth between the trial and the time Anna was living with them before she was murdered.
The story is one of hope and different expectations, looking at those around us to figure out just how much we truly know those we love. Can the man you love be capable of murder? the child you gave birth to capable of manipulation? what has Anna really been through in the 17 years she wasn't with Maggie and what does her death have to do with it?
I love that a majority of this story is based in a court room. Lisa, a former lawyer, knows how to get in a lawyers mind and can truly describe jurors, the judge and even the defendant.
I love Lisa for her stories, her voice and that all her novels are close to my home. She just keeps getting better.

Fairytale by Danielle Steel 
Date Read: April 07, 2018
Rating:???

(My Review)Deeply in love, Christophe and Joy Lammenais built Chateau Lammenais into a small but renowned Napa Valley winery and an idyllic home where they raised their beloved daughter, Camille, who takes on increasing responsibilities for the estate they all treasure. But after Joy�s early death from breast cancer just after Camille�s graduation from Stanford, a lonely Christophe soon falls prey to the machinations of a sophisticate from his native France�who moves, with her two reprobate sons, to consolidate her power over Camille and the property when Christophe is killed in a plane crash. I am always amazed at how seamlessly Danielle Steel weaves a story together with such remarkable characters and action in just the right places. This was just another example of her incredible talent at work.


Our Kind of Cruelty by Araminta Hall
Date Read: April 14, 2018
Rating:?????
(My Review) I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

Utterly speechless. Intense. This is definitely one of those books to watch in 2018 because I believe it will be on everyone's mind.
This is a love story. Well, that's Mike's love story. Verify and Mike have been together for years. They made it through their college years and still strongly loved each other. No one but them understood their story. How could they? They were made for each other, two people destined to be. Crave was a sex game they played that turned them both in immensely. They'd go to a bar and wait for a guy to hit on V, so Mike could swoop in and save her.
Obviously V is just playing their secret game now. She isn't really getting married to Angus? She's just trying to get Mike's attention. After all, this is Mike's love story and it's him and V in the end.
Damn, this book grabbed me with its intensity from the beginning. The way the author portrays the characters is exquisite. Your heart will pound. Your pulse with race. You'll breathlessly want more
Somebody's Daughter by Rochelle Weinstein
Date Read: April 17, 2018
Rating:????

(My Review) It's almost impossible to read this book and not let it effect you at your very core. A family is faced with an unimaginable event going public and must decide whether to band together or let it rip them apart. I immediately developed feelings for each character. Sympathy. Anger. Shock.

Emma and Bobby lead a charmed life with their two fifteen year old daughters in Miami beach, Florida. They own their own hotel called the Ross, that is thought of as a family destination but still the place to be. They live in the Ross and feel connected to each and every one of their employees. Their two twin daughters, Lily and Zoe attend private school and have a bunch of great friends. All these people come out to celebrate with them at the hotel for their fifteenth birthday. Then a message is sent to some and tragedy strikes close to home. Emma rushed to try to fix things while Bobby can't even acknowledge what happened.
As a family is tested, family bonds will be broken, friendship will be questioned and revenge will unfold. Somebody s daughter is sure to make you question your own relationships with your children and make you wonder what would happen if it was your daughter? What would you do? How far would you go to protect your own?
This book not only tells a very relevant story but does it so the reader really understands all sides of the story. The story was so moving and told perfectly with just the right amount of laughter and tears. A huge winner for this reader.


Bro Code by Kendall Ryan
Date Read: April 28, 2018
(My Review) I received a copy of this book from Ink Slinger PR in exchange for an honest review.

Hold on a minute, while I hose myself off from this explosive book. Wow. This book was amazing. I can't believe this is my first read by Kendall Ryan. I'm pretty sure I'm going to go purchase a ton of her books now that I've been blown away by this one.

Barrett and Ava were both great characters that you quickly started to route for. Barrett is a lawyer that will do almost anything to make partner this year in his Chicago firm. Ava is the little sister of his best friend and certainly OFF LIMITS according to the bro code that every guy knows about and follows right? Barrett is doing his best but with comments from Ava such as "I don't like being told what to do, unless I'm naked" he is having a heck of a time complying with what is right. The scenes between them are either scorching HOT or LOL funny. I enjoyed them so much.
If you enjoy contemporary, romance and great writing, you have to pick this novel up as soon as possible.


The Oxford Year by Julia Whelan
Date Read: April 30, 2018

Rating:?????


(My Review)Ella is a Rhodes scholar, planning to spend a year at Oxford and then head home to a life in politics. Her plans are upended when she meets Jamie, a teaching assistant. As their relationship evolves, Ella has to make some difficult choices. The setting of Oxford contributes to the appreciation of the story, as do the secondary characters Charles, Maggie and Tom.

Jaime and Ella weren't looking for anything serious. She is leaving for America in June and he is a player that doesn't "do" serious. So they start just spending time together in the bedroom and come to really enjoy each other so they venture out on a few dates.
The story really heats up in the second half of the story when we learn Jaime's secret which seriously blew me away. I didn't see it coming at all.
Read this book. You'll love it. I promise.

Thursday, May 3, 2018

The Monthly Brew (May 2018)


Hello! Welcome to The Monthly Brew - formally known as Coffee Break. We're one day away from Friday - which means we're one day away from the weekend!

The weather has finally warmed up in Ohio and I cannot wait to get outside and just enjoy the sunshine! They're building a new ice cream shop right next to the library, which has an amazing playground too. Joe and I have already planned to fill our summers with library-ice cream-playground trips!


What I'm Doing


via Sherwin Williams

Painting! Well, not yet - but I will be!

Now that we've finally finished putting in the floor of the three season room it's time for me to paint! I love painting and would paint every room in the house if necessary. However, it is not necessary to paint every room but there are definitely rooms that are in need.

Painting is such an easy way to make a home yours and insert your own style into each room. I tend to move toward neutral colors on walls because I can always add pops of color through my decor - and it's easier to change your throw pillows than the wall color when ready for a change.

I picked out a few paint chips from Sherwin Williams's Liveable Luxe collection (above) the other day and not it's just a matter of picking out the right color for each room.

What I'm Watching


You already know that my taste in TV shows range from Victoria to Teen Mom and everything in between. So this should come as no surprise to anyone, but my favorite show right now is Jersey Shore: Family Vacation. I actually watch in the night it airs - pretty unheard of for me.

Jersey Shore was my gateway to reality TV. I didn't watch season one, but started halfway through season two as Joe was an avid watcher and we'd started dating around that time. He tapped out after season two, but I was hooked!

What I'm Reading

Beauty in the Broken Places: A Memoir of Love, Faith, and Resilience  I'll Be Gone in the Dark: One Woman's Obsessive Search for the Golden State Killer

Two nonfiction novels going at once - not the norm for me!

I am a huge fan of Allison Pataki. Normally she writes historical fiction, but this memoir is one of heartache and truth. I just started Beauty in the Broken Places last night so I'm not too far into it, but I can already tell my emotions are going to be put through the ringer!

A deeply moving memoir about two lives that were changed in the blink of an eye, and the love that helped them rewrite their future

Five months pregnant, on a flight to their �babymoon,� Allison Pataki turned to her husband when he asked if his eye looked strange, and watched him suddenly lose consciousness. After an emergency landing, she discovered that Dave�a healthy thirty-year-old athlete and surgical resident�had suffered a rare and life-threatening stroke. Next thing Allison knew, she was sitting alone in the ER in Fargo, North Dakota, waiting to hear if her husband would survive the night.

When Dave woke up, he could not carry memories from hour to hour, much less from one day to the next. Allison lost the Dave she knew and loved when he lost consciousness on the plane. Within a few months, she found herself caring for both a newborn and a sick husband, struggling with the fear of what was to come.

As a way to make sense of the pain and chaos of their new reality, Allison started to write daily letters to Dave. Not only would she work to make sense of the unfathomable experiences unfolding around her, but her letters would provide Dave with the memories he could not make on his own. She was writing to preserve their past, protect their present, and fight for their future. Those letters became the foundation for this beautiful, intimate memoir. And in the process, she fell in love with her husband all over again.

This is a manifesto for living, an ultimately uplifting story about the transformative power of faith and resilience. It�s a tale of a husband�s turbulent road to recovery, the shifting nature of marriage, and the struggle of loving through pain and finding joy in the broken places.

You'd have to have been living under a rock to not know of I'll Be Gone in the Dark, especially recently. I have had this book on my list ever since it was first published back in February, but given the recent events OF HIS CAPTURE I couldn't wait any longer.

A masterful true crime account of the Golden State Killer�the elusive serial rapist turned murderer who terrorized California for over a decade�from Michelle McNamara, the gifted journalist who died tragically while investigating the case.

"You�ll be silent forever, and I�ll be gone in the dark."

For more than ten years, a mysterious and violent predator committed fifty sexual assaults in Northern California before moving south, where he perpetrated ten sadistic murders. Then he disappeared, eluding capture by multiple police forces and some of the best detectives in the area.

Three decades later, Michelle McNamara, a true crime journalist who created the popular website TrueCrimeDiary.com, was determined to find the violent psychopath she called "the Golden State Killer." Michelle pored over police reports, interviewed victims, and embedded herself in the online communities that were as obsessed with the case as she was.

At the time of the crimes, the Golden State Killer was between the ages of eighteen and thirty, Caucasian, and athletic�capable of vaulting tall fences. He always wore a mask. After choosing a victim�he favored suburban couples�he often entered their home when no one was there, studying family pictures, mastering the layout. He attacked while they slept, using a flashlight to awaken and blind them. Though they could not recognize him, his victims recalled his voice: a guttural whisper through clenched teeth, abrupt and threatening.

I�ll Be Gone in the Dark�the masterpiece McNamara was writing at the time of her sudden death�offers an atmospheric snapshot of a moment in American history and a chilling account of a criminal mastermind and the wreckage he left behind. It is also a portrait of a woman�s obsession and her unflagging pursuit of the truth. Framed by an introduction by Gillian Flynn and an afterword by her husband, Patton Oswalt, the book was completed by Michelle�s lead researcher and a close colleague. Utterly original and compelling, it is destined to become a true crime classic�and may at last unmask the Golden State Killer.
 

I actually just finished this yesterday and it's masterfully done - full review to come! It is a little heartbreaking that Michelle put so much of her time and effort into this novel and passed away before he was caught. But caught he was and I believe I'll Be Gone in the Dark helped play a part of his capture.

Send me your recommendations! What are you doing, watching, or reading?

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say by Leila Sales (Review, Interview, Giveaway)


I am thrilled to be a stop on the book tour for If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say by Leila Sales! Be sure to read my review and interview with Leila and check out the tour schedule for more.
Don't forget to enter the giveaway!


Series:
Standalone
Genre:
Young Adult, Fiction, Contemporary, Realistic Fiction
Publication Date:May 1, 2018
Pages:324 (ARC)
Published By:  Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Website:Leila Sales

If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say on Goodreads
My review copy:
Received in exchange for an honest review

Where to get:

https://www.amazon.com/You-Dont-Have-Anything-Nice/dp/0374380996/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1523886144&sr=8-1&keywords=If+You+Don%27t+Have+Anything+Nice+to+Say+by+Leila+Sales https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/if-you-dont-have-anything-nice-to-say-leila-sales/1126791417?ean=9780374380991 https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780374380991



Before we go any further, I want you to understand this: I am not a good person.

We all want to be seen. We all want to be heard. But what happens when we�re seen and heard saying or doing the wrong things? What then?

When Winter Halperin�former spelling bee champion, aspiring writer, and daughter of a parenting expert�gets caught saying the wrong thing online, her life explodes. All across the world, people knows what she�s done, and none of them will forgive her.

With her friends gone, her future plans cut short, and her identity in shambles, Winter is just trying to pick up the pieces without hurting anyone else. She knows she messed up, but does that mean it�s okay for people to send her hate mail and death threats? Does she deserve to lose all that she�s lost? And is �I�m sorry� ever good enough?

First and foremost a novel about public shaming in the internet age, If You Don�t Have Anything Nice to Say is also an exploration of the power of words, the cumulative destructiveness of microaggressions, and the pressing need for empathy.

(Goodreads)

Quotes and page numbers are obtained from the ARC and are subject to change

When we decide someone is an angel, she is an angel only until she falls from the sky. But when we decide someone is a villain, she is a villain forever. Everything she says or does in only more proof of her villainy. She cannot be redeemed. (14)
Over the past seven months, so many people had shown me such cruelty. But there was also occasions that stuck in mind when people briefly shone kindness into the darkness that surrounded me. The one that I returned to now was Claudette Cruz, on my first day to school back after The Incident, saying to me in science class, What's happening to you is wrong. Hold your head up, girl. They don't know you. (319-20)
 I think the moral is that we can do bad things and not be bad people. That we can make mistakes and do better next time. That we can hurt those who love us, and lie to those who trust us, and criticize those who are trying their hardest - and still our lives do not end. That no matter how many times we do wrong, we still have it within us to do right. (324)


We've all said things that came out wrong or were misconstrued in one way or another - especially when it comes to things on the internet or over text. I myself am guilty of having a coworker read over emails because in my head the words come across as bitchy or snarky, but in her mind they sound fine - but maybe you should take that sentence out.

It's the world we live in and the world to which we've all adapted. After tweeting what she believes to be a humorous and lighthearted tweet, but was in fact rather racist, she wakes to find that the internet feels vastly different than she does. Over the course of a few hours, her tweet goes viral and her reputation is destroyed. BuzzFeed, Jezebel, The Washington Post, etc. all pick up the story of "White Winter."

A few days later, another story pops up and Winter's tweet and story are all but forgotten by the general population. But Winter has not forgotten and left to deal with the repercussions:

"It takes such a brief time to destroy someone's life and forget that you did it. But rebuilding a life - that's different. That takes forever" (70).

This quote holds so much truth. We live in a world where Individual A messes up and it's all over the news. A few days later Individual B messes up and nobody remembers Individual A. Except Individual A is still dealing with the consequences - lost job, damaged reputation, etc. And then Individual C steps in to the lime light and the cycle continues.

The sad, and scary thing, is that I have seen real responses Winter received on real articles about real people. People wished her dead, raped, murdered, and all manner of horrific things. Leila's characters are fictional, but the world they live in is entirely real. The internet isn't policed. Winter's mother's lawyer even tells them there is nothing to be done about the comments - they cannot sue anyone, they cannot press charges against anyone. The internet is the Wild West and it's vicious.

Honestly, I couldn't tell if I liked Winter or not - she tells us from the beginning that she is not a good person and I find that fact hard to argue. Throughout the first half of the book, she doesn't feel she did anything wrong. Even while she was writing her apology the next morning, I knew it wasn't going to be well received. She comes off as the person who is "sorry you were hurt by what I said." The individual who is "sorry you feel that way." She doesn't have true remorse and doesn't understand why people are upset. When someone tries to tell her why people, themselves included, are hurt or angry she ignores their feelings because it's "obviously not what she meant" (26).

However, to her credit, Winter seeks help in not only improving her reputation, but also improving herself. She acknowledges that it's not enough to seem better, you actually have to be better. Do better. Leila takes us into the mind and life of someone who has messed up and messed up big, but is (eventually) determined to truly learn from their misstep and better not only themselves but those around them. To apologize and to mean it. Winter is not a stranger on the internet with an offensive and derogatory tweet, but an individual who had to learn the hard way that in the age of the internet your intent can me almost nothing, and your words can mean everything.


Interview with Leila Sales


In today's world where it's easy to misconstrue meaning of text (whether that be a text message, Facebook post, or in Winter's case a tweet), why did you decide to write from Winter's point of view? Why was your inspiration for telling her story?

That was exactly what I wanted to explore: how easy it is to misconstrue text, to read into somebody�s words intentions that may not be there. And then of course I wanted to look at the very question of intentions: do they matter? Should we give someone a pass for doing something wrong�as Winter does�if they didn�t �mean it that way�? The books� epigraphs take opposite sides of that issue, and personally I can see both.

I�m kind of a perfectionist, and my default state is to think that if I�ve screwed up one thing, then I�ve screwed up everything, most likely due to my intrinsic character flaws. Obviously, that�s not healthy, and it�s not rational. So I wanted to show a character move through that, to realize that it is possible to make mistakes and bad choices and still be a good and valuable human being.

Was there a particular scene or chapter that was especially fun or challenging to write?

The entire second half of the book was challenging to write! I had many models for what the first half looked like�there are so many stories of people who have misguidedly done or said something ignorant and hurtful that has gone viral. We know what that looks like, and what the immediate repercussions are. But we don�t really have a sense of what the path to redemption looks like after that. I wrote entire drafts of a few very different options for Winter�hundreds and hundreds of pages�before I came up with the concept of Revibe.

We've all made decisions that result in unexpected consequences, good and bad. So let's put a positive spin on things and tell us about a decision you've made that led to unexpected, but wonderful, consequences.

I love that way of looking at things! Though it totally does not come naturally to me. I�d say my decision on where to go to college. I hadn�t gotten into any of my top-choice schools, which was disappointing, and then I could not decide between two of the schools that I had gotten into. I�m sure either of them could have been great, and there was no one obvious �right� choice, but the decision that I made ultimately led to all sorts of positive outcomes: I got involved in improv comedy, I connected with my literary agent, I did an internship that allowed me to later get my job, and a bunch of other stuff that I couldn�t have anticipated when I was trying to make that choice.

Is there a particular message you hope readers will take away from If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say?

When trying to understand another�s motivations, do not attribute to malice what can just as easily be explained by ignorance.

And always remember that you don�t know what�s going on in other people�s lives. So don�t treat them as though the part of them that you can see constitutes the entirety of who they are.

I love that! We only see a fraction of a persons life and we have to remember they are more than just those few aspects. If you could write a letter to your 16-year-old self, what would you talk about?

I think I�d tell myself, �There is nothing wrong with you.� And also, �Be nicer to your dad.�

What's the last show you binge watched?

The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. Such glorious characters, and dialogue, and outfits!

I really need to watch that myself! I keep meaning to, but life! Thanks for stopping by, Leila!



Leila Sales was born in 1984 and grew up outside of Boston, Massachusetts. She graduated from the University of Chicago with a degree in psychology in 2006. Now she lives in Brooklyn, New York, and works in the mostly glamorous world of children's book publishing. Leila spends most of her time thinking about sleeping, kittens, dance parties, and stories that she wants to write.



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